5.26.2015

alright, i just need to address something here.

i was going to start this post with how i just earned the right to vote and have just recently begun caring/learning about some of the big issues that seem to be dominating our world and social media. but forget that, let's just get straight to the point.

i'm really freaking tired of people being vague about their views and beliefs on things that matter. i HATE seeing tweets and facebook posts and instagram pictures that basically sum up what happened rather than express their opinion on it. i HATE when people use others to say what they want rather than saying it themselves or use statistics to prove someone's guilt or use God to sweep the issue under the rug rather than have it dealt with. Christians, i'm looking at you. 

i used to be one of those vague people. alright, it some cases, i still am. when the ferguson and baltimore riots became the center focus of the media, i was bombarded with differing opinions from my family and my peers (some of whom reside on social media). and while i sided with the majority of the opinions coming from my peers i was unsure of what to do with my family because i didn't want to disappoint them. you know how you grow up with a certain set of beliefs and you're expected to adhere to them because your parents do and when you don't, you're seen as some sort of heathen? yeah, i'm kinda going through that right now. that's not to say my parents and i have starkly different beliefs, but they're not the same anymore, they're just similar. i don't believe the deaths of mike brown or trayvon martin or eric garner were solely their faults. but i also don't hate the police and i do not feel right saying 'f the police' just like everyone else. i'm not opposed to rioting, but i'm not for the looting. just to stay safe, i settled in saying that these people had died, and that they weren't coming back, and that the mourning of the people who loved them was completely valid. all of these things are true. but in other aspects of the issue, i stayed quiet. i let myself get vague. and while a lot of these issues can be extremely complex, it's good to know what you stand for. not just have an idea. 

so the latest issue, the duggars. you should all have an idea of what happened considering all the attention it's gotten. what i have seen in the media are replicas of the following statements "i don't know how someone can take pride in digging up another person's past" and "they're not perfect, this just proves that" and "no sin is too great for God to forgive." the last two of these statements are true. but they are not the complete point. i wish people would stop being so vague and just say what josh did was wrong, plain and simple. i wish they'd understand that it is extremely hard to forgive and cannot be done quickly or easily. i wish they'd understand that sweeping this sin under the rug by saying "Jesus forgives" completely undermines the struggle people across the world experience after being abused. because while He does forgive, there are still things that have to be dealt with to make sure both parties are okay. do NOT defend anyone without knowing the whole story or knowing as much as you can. you have to remember that there are people who have gone through this. and it's a whole lot worse than you think. as for digging up another person's past, it's done. it has happened. it's over. and since it has been brought to light, we need to first and foremost recognize that this is wrong. and we need to stop being afraid to say that. end rant, drops mic, okay? okay.

{pea ess: please keep those abused in this horrible situation in your prayers. they seem to have been forgotten in this mess.}
{pea pea ess: my mom brought this up and i think it's spot on - whether or not josh was a believer when he hurt those girls, his being saved should NOT be an excuse for his deeds. sin is sin. and in situations like this (in any situation), it should not be swept under the rug just because you've confessed your love for Jesus. okay i'm done.}

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  1. a-freaking-men. thank you for writing this jocee.

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  2. To be honest, I'm not a news kind of person so a lot of the stuff you're mentioning makes no sense. I do agree that stating your own opinion on any issue is incredibly important though, and we shouldn't let our family or friends impact our views that much. It's most definitely so freaking annoying when people are so easily influenced or vague.

    -M
    The Life of Little Me

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    1. what do you not understand? perhaps i can explain it to you. :)

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  3. I really needed to read this. The past year or so, I've been trying to make sense out of the events that have been occurring in our nation. I related to your description of you and your parents beliefs as "not the same anymore, they're just similar.", I've been feeling that too with my family/friends/teachers/peers/etc., and as easy as it is to try and keep the peace, it can be tiring to hold your tongue for too long. Anyways, sorry for the ramble.... to summarize, I totally agree with everything you've written. ;)

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  4. You make a really good point. I think people shouldn't judge others' opinions on something, totally. And to openly admit that you don't know about a certain news topic when it is brought up in conversation or in class, instead of making assumptions.

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  5. Re Josh: I don't understand why someone is digging up something that was addressed 12 years ago. He was 14 when he made a bad decision.... kids make mistakes. {Think of the amount of people that DO much worse than him at his age and don't get their sins broadcasted across the world.}

    If only people knew what mistakes every juvenile made we wouldn't be so judgemental. I pray that he got the help he needed and this is a non-issue now.

    By Dee Grace Weand

    God forgave the worst of worst sinners who was dying on a cross next to Jesus. God HAS forgiven Josh and the girls can forgive Josh -- yes, it may be *hard* and very difficult to, but Jesus WASHES AWAY sin.

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    1. EXACTLY. Thank you. I just watched an interview with Jim-Bob and Michelle (it was on Fox, but it was good regardless), and they didn't try to hide anything, and Josh actually came to them with what he had done when it had happened. They got him help, and even took him to the police and had him confess what he had done to them, with a witness. But because he was 14, the records were sealed as something in the past, because it's not going to go on his permanent record- the police file was opened illegally, and how it's being broadcast is sickening. Why isn't anyone going after whoever opened the file and gave it to the tabloids who published it- all of which was illegal?! Josh told his wife Anna what he had done before he had ever even asked her to marry him, and he told her parents as well. He didn't have to do that, but he wanted them to know, and not hide it from his future wife and in-laws, and I think that's awesome. He wants them to know it is all in the past, and had he not told her and she found out later, that would've been more suspicious/concerning. Justice was served long ago, and now people are digging for any dirt to destroy this family. Justice needs to be served now to the people who are destroying their lives, and whoever started this mess in the first place. I hope the magazine that first published it (knowing what they were doing was illegal) goes bankrupt.

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  6. Sad...you know I was sexually abused by a family member and if the guy that did that to me did what Josh Duggar did and repented and turned from his sins that would be awesome! I wish people would stop for a minute and realize this guy didn't run away from his sin he came out admitted his sin and that had to take courage in a society that treats people like this the way we do. I think a big reason pedofiles don't get better in this country is cause we don't allow them to. Why should they even try to overcome this sun when we see them as evil and u forgiveable? Much worse are those now struggling with this sin they are seeing how someone who dealt with this years ago is being treated now. I wish people would realize the magnitude of what they are doing to this guy. What reason does he have to do anything right anymore? I can't imagine the pain he must feel as his entire family loses a show, a reputation, friends, followers, etc. he bares a pain only few will ever understand. I only hope he doesn't turn away from what our society does to him. I have always thought Josh was cool and I still do. Why? Cause all sin is equal and all sin separates us from God. It only takes 1 sin if you lie, cheat, steal, commit adultery, fornication, murder, rape, or any other sin God says we are separated from him unless forgiven. So stop treating him so badly cause we are all sinners. Let's rejoice instead that this young man was lost but like the prodigal, came home to the Father.

    Karilee Crabtree-Resto

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    1. while i agree with where you're coming from, the point of my post was this: what josh did was wrong. and i don't think that's something to be debated, but simply acknowledged. because if we ONLY say that he is forgiven (which he is, and i'm not trying to say that he hasn't been whatsoever) and not deal with the problem accordingly, other people may not know how to function if something similar happens to them or someone close to them. i'm glad he's turned his life around and is now following God. that's 100% great! however, that doesn't erase the fact that what he did was wrong. sure he repented from it, but sexual abuse happens everyday in our world. regardless of whether or not those people know God, what they are doing is in no way good. not at all.

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